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【新三才首发】晚上小孩回家写完功课之后,过来找我聊聊天。他说今天有一件事,让他感觉有时候好像诚实不一定是最好的选择。我听了觉得怪怪的,因为从小就教育他无论啥事,都要诚实面对,甚至小时候不懂事时还因为说了些小谎被我严重处罚了几次。所以他这样一讲,我就追问了下去。

他说,今天上课时,不知道谈到啥主题,结果老师竟然开始调查同学有没有出过国,并请有出国经验的同学举手。然后,因为小孩有几次的出国经验,他当然就很开心地举手。可是,他却发现,全班最后只有一个同学没有举手,也是他在班上的一位好朋友,当下他注意到这个同学出现很尴尬的表情,后来还失落地趴在桌上一会儿。所以他就觉得,或许当时他也应该不要举手(也就是不要诚实回答),至少可以让朋友不要感觉很孤立。

我理解小孩良善的内心,所以先好好称赞了他一下。不过,我还是引导他说,其实这样的情况,即使他当下好意说谎不举手,若因此事后被朋友发现他其实有出过国(还好几次),然后因为同情朋友才故意不举手的话,反而可能会让朋友心里更受伤。

然而,我也非常理解当这样的事情发生时,其实别说小孩子,连大人都很不容易去安慰受伤的当事人。所以我建议他说,以后这样的情况,如果他也想不到该如何安慰朋友时,不妨就等下课之后约一起出去外面玩玩,把心情转换一下。

结果小孩很开心说有,他确实等到下课就立刻约这个朋友去球场上打球,借由转移注意力,以及运动的释放,后来朋友的心情也确实有好转了。

我为小孩能有如此温暖的内心感到高兴,也发现他其实很会观察周遭的细节与他人情绪的变化,我期许他如同太阳一般温暖的内心,可以一直保持下去,为来能够影响与感动更多人。

(作者:张季民)

(责任编辑:姜启明)

(文章来源:新三才首发)

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