感悟生活 一笑泯恩仇

一笑泯恩仇

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【新三才首发】上午外出办事,碰到以前的同事。和他微笑打招呼,他礼貌地回应。寒暄几句之后分开,这样温馨的场面让我十分感慨。要说起来,这位同事算是在我职业生涯中第一次狠狠踩我一脚的人。

念书时常常听人说,职场如战场。工作之后,头几年没有太多感觉。因为年轻,资历尚浅,没有太多人把我当对手,顶多就是同龄人之间一些正常的竞争。随着时间推移,我发现状况有所转变。也许是我一直比较顺利,上升很快,慢慢吸引了不少人的注意。

我知道大家虽然相处和谐,但实际是分成不同团体的,尤其领导们,特别容易形成自己的圈子。我从不刻意讨好任何人,没有想贴近谁的圈子。甚至有些人拉拢我,我也不是特别敏感。几年下来,一直处于谁都不投靠的状态。

很自然,各个圈子的头目会尽力提拔自己的人,充实壮大自己的力量。这些也全都在我可理解的范围之内,毕竟人本能地都会信任与自己关系好的人,只要不违反正常的原则与程序,算不上太大的问题。

直到有一次,有高一级的职位空缺,所有人都知道我几乎是唯一的合适人选。可以说,连竞争都不存在,因为其他人根本不符合条件。但让所有人想不到的是,今天碰到的那位同事,不顾原则与程序,更不考虑民意,提拔了他圈子里的人。

我吃了一惊,身边人也一样吃惊,大家纷纷议论,说提拔那人名不正言不顺,而我是被硬生生踩下来的。我虽然没有去争取那个职位,也没有十分看重,但当一个处处不如我的人被提了上去,我心中还是少不了会有些不舒服,有种被打脸的感觉。

后来的日子,我对那位同事依然礼貌相待,但气氛明显不同了。我不想过多与他说话,因为我质疑他的人品与心胸。无论什么场合,如果我在,他好像也不自在,或许是因为心中有愧不想面对吧。

经过一段时间的思考,我选择放下与宽恕。人各有命,得失都是定数。尽管同事的做法被众人指责,但局面已定,我们要看的是下一步怎么做好,而不是纠结过去。

再一次见同事的时候,我尽量和善地对他,与他聊天交流,而他似乎也变了许多,甚至提到他工作上的不得已,和我说了几句知心话。后来,他调走了,到了另一个部门。今天碰见,纯属偶然,那一刻,居然有老友重逢的惊喜。一笑之间,早已泯去所有过往恩仇。

外界的很多东西看似复杂,但很大程度上还是取决于人的内心。如若我怀恨在心,与同事的关系别别扭扭,他肯定不舒坦,说不定就真成了仇人。选择宽恕包容,一切就变了。人与人之间的恩恩怨怨、是是非非,只要活着,就无法避免。我们虽然逃不掉,但是可以选择怎样去面对。心大一点,天地自然就会宽一些。

作者: Jasmine.

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